My dear friend, Steve Wilson.

I write about stupid stuff. I write about video games, and comic books, and why this phone is better than that phone. I write about which peanut butter to eat. I’ve never written about anything I’d even remotely classify as “meaningful” to anyone outside of my close friends and family.

That’s why I’ve sat in front of this monitor for the past week and have been completely paralyzed by an inability to articulate the loss I’ve felt over the last seven days.

Last week I lost a dear friend. My boss, mentor, co-worker, and dear, dear friend Steve Wilson passed away last week very suddenly after a short illness.

To say that I was devastated would be an understatement. To somehow try to  put into words what this loss means to me has been impossible to say the least. Better, more eloquent people have spoken and written about him, and their words have only served to highlight, in my mind, just how wonderful he was in ways that I struggle with even now. I worked with him for over the past decade and can very honestly say without even a hint of hyperbole, that I wouldn’t be the man I was today if it wasn’t for Steve. He taught me so much about advertising, design, art, music, and life. I don’t really know what else to add. I’ve gone over and over it in my mind, and I’m just having a very hard time even processing the fact that, here we are a week later, and he’s gone. His was a beautiful soul. I was fortunate to have known him.

Andy Lesnik, Steve’s business parter of 25 years, and my boss, wrote a moving tribute to Steve that he read at his memorial on Friday. You can read it here.

Another close friend, Marty Hardin, wrote an equally eloquent post on his blog.

UPDATE: Patrick Evans, who also spoke at Steve’s memorial on Friday posted his wonderful tribute to Steve on his blog. It’s beautiful. Please take a moment and read his thoughts as well.

They’re all much better than I am at capturing why this man was so important to me and so loved by everyone who met him. Read their words.

The Seven Days of Thanksgiving: Day Five, Six, and Seven

Hug the people you love. Tell them you love them. Make sure they know how much they mean to you. If you have kids, hold them tight and be right there, in that moment. Don’t be anywhere else in your head. Hold your wife (or husband). Tell them how much they mean to you. Call your mom, dad, sister, brother. Tell them how much they’ve impacted your life. When I say the words, “best friend”… you know the face that just popped into your head? Call them today. Tell them how much it means to have them in your life. Tell them a funny story about something you two did that you always think about that makes you smile.

THAT is what’s important. Nothing else. Not work, not “the internet”, not TV, not anything you can get on eBay.

That’s the “Seven Days of Thanksgiving”. I’m finishing it up early because I’m not going to waste time sitting around thinking about things to blog about over the next week. I’m going to spend that time with the people I love.

You do the same. We’ll get back together after the holidays. Have a safe and happy Thanksgiving with the ones who are most important to you.

Be thankful for them.

The Seven Days of Thanksgiving: Day Four

Friends. Not “Facebook Friends”. Real friends. Friends that you regularly spend time with. Friends that you talk to. Friends that you’re honest with. Friends that you think to call when times get rough, or you need support. Friends that call you when they need support, or advice… or just an ear. Friends without judgement. Friends that are there for you, or that you’re there for, no matter what, at the drop of a hat. Friends that don’t play games, or add drama to your life. Friends that are just… friends.

If you have these people in your life, take a moment and thank them.

The Seven Days of Thanksgiving: Day Three

Easy one tonight, Family.

I’m sitting here typing this after one of those nights that you always look back on as “one of the greats”. My mother-in-law’s birthday. Me, my wife, the kids, my brother-in-law, his wife, their kids, and my mother-in-law… all spent the evening bowling down in Surfside Beach. I wouldn’t trade nights like this for all the money in the world. My brother-in-law lives in the same neighborhood, across the street. Our daughters have spent their whole lives growing up across the street from each other, sharing playdates, birthdays, holidays and a whole host of important days and memories. My mom and dad live right across town in a town that’s only about 15 minutes across and my mother-in-law lives right on the way to work. I’m surrounded by family and I love it. I’m very fortunate to be this close to the people who matter most and I don’t ever forget it. We don’t want for babysitters who are eager to get the kids.

This Thanksgiving we’ll spend it over at my parents’ house and I won’t forget to take a minute and give thanks for the location and the company.

The Seven Days of Thanksgiving: Day Two

I’m sitting on the sofa writing this while I watch “Pee Wee’s Big Adventure” and help Abby cut out pictures from an activity book (I cut out all the hands, “because they’re hard”). After the movie we’re going to go shopping for birthday presents for Grandma, who’s coming over tonight to eat dinner (and a cake we’re going to bake, later). After dinner and after the kids are in bed, I’ll make a little time to go out in the garage and ride my bike on the rollers.

I’m thankful for time. I’m thankful that I have a whole day like today to spend with my wife and kids doing nothing more than enjoying each other’s company and making memories together.

There are a lot of things you could be thankful for, but if you don’t have time to enjoy them, they’re not much use, are they?

The Seven Days of Thanksgiving: Day One

Next Thursday is Thanksgiving and I thought since it’s seven days until Turkey Day, why not try to blog once a day about something I’m thankful for? While I’m not actually certain that I can think of seven things off the top of my head, I’m fairly confident I can pull this off. I have a lot to be thankful for. I’m surrounded by great people, my life is practically perfect in every way, I’m amazingly healthy, and I’m the happiest I think I’ve been in my whole life. So I don’t think I’ll want for subject matter.

So day one, I think I’ll give a shout out to work. I’m thankful for not only having a job in this economy, but having the job I’ve got. I work with great people. Every day I get to come to a place that’s creative, that likes to think, that enjoys helping partners and clients solve problems that help their businesses, and that’s a pretty great thing. I really love my job and what I do, and for that, I’m thankful.

So here’s to work. Work is good.

November 18th, 2010

Speechless


I couldn't make this up. 4 years old and this is what she draws when she gets mad at mommy.

Where’s my pencil sharpener?

*sigh*

I’ve been told it’s the cat’s meow, but I still can’t come up with compelling enough reasons to actually use Evernote. I’m like a poster child for the app though. I have an iPhone, I’ve got a fancy schmancy iPad, this lighting-fast-rocket-scientist-approved MacBook Pro. I’d love to be able to sync notes between all three, and even went so far as to start looking for a way to do it, doing shit like Googling, “how do I sync my iPhone, iPad, and Macbook?” and, “Can I sync stickies with my iPhone and iPad?” (I’m a huge fan of stickies) and seeing, buried deep in some discussion thread about why stickies suck (remind me to flame that asshole) someone simply saying, “Evernote is perfect for this”. I think my forehead is still a little red from where I slapped it. After all, I’ve had Evernote installed since almost the first day I got my Macbook, based on a recommendation from a friend of mine (Hey Tracy!) who swears by it. Then I got an iPad and it was probably like, the third app I installed, right behind DropBox and iBooks (okay, fourth… I did install the Marvel Comics App before the thing had even warmed up, after all).

And on paper it’s perfect. Install Evernote on your phone, your tablet, your laptop, your desktop… and sync them all. Create a note on your phone and sync it with your laptop. Embed locations into documents and search for notes based on geolocation. Install the Safari (or Firefox) extension and clip whole web pages to save and read (or whatever) later. You can even clip things and save them to Evernote as a PDF. See? Am I right? It’s like, the perfect app.

So why don’t I use it?

I’m not saying, “like I barely use it, dude.” No, I’m saying, “I don’t ever use it” (no pun intended).

And it makes me think. Why don’t I use it? Is it the extra step involved in creating a note in Evernote? Is it even an extra step?

So I make little promises to myself, like some reformed alcoholic, looking at myself in the mirror in the morning while I shave, “Today I’m going to use Evernote. Today will be the day!” In my head, I even say it with a Tony Robbins voice and agree with myself, “yes Jeff, you CAN use Evernote today! Today you’ll be a beacon of organization! A standard-bearer of all things orderly and organized!” I “golly gee whiz” myself a couple times, grab my laptop bag, get to work…

And promptly write shit on little scraps of paper surrounding my keyboard… using a dull pencil.

For all my digital acumen, I’m still just a guy with a desk filled with real, actual sticky notes. But I promise I am gonna start using Evernote for like, ALL my notes and important stuff.

First thing tomorrow.

It sounded like a good idea… in my head.

key disaster

In one fell swoop, I became, "that guy".

While out in LA recently, I got this cool thumb drive from the Adobe Max Conference. Okay, I got like, three or four thumb drives from the Adobe Max Conference. Apparently that’s the schwag du jour this year. A couple of them were really cool, like the TokiDoki one we all got in our “goodie bags”. One of them that stood out however, was a nice, 2-gigabyte little blue fold up thumb drive from Neotys, a web application performance and stress testing company. Now, I’ve had thumb drives for years. I think the first one I got was a little 32 megabyte drive that came with an old Dell laptop I bought in the early 21st century. They all seemed pretty useless until recently, when people would give you 2 and 4 gigabyte drives. That’s enough to throw a couple movies on, or a handful of comics, maybe a book or twelve… perhaps a couple of websites you’re working on. You get the picture. Suddenly you’ve got this little drive that’s capable of actually carrying around… you know, useful shit.

So my great idea was that now I was going to start trying to carry it around with me. You know, make it more convenient. The idea being, maybe if I had it handier (is that even a word? handier?) I would use it more. The ol’ “force myself to use it by virtue of the fact that it’s constantly tethered to me” plan. I would get one of those keychains that had the quick release thingamabob that would allow me to carry my thumb drive around with me and whip it out whenever a data/space/hard drive emergency presented itself. There I’d be, in the middle of some crazy ass conversation with someone who had some pressing 1 gigabyte emergency, but never fear, look what I have! Then in a flash, I’d have my ass kicking two gigabyte keychain-fob-thumbdrive and I’d save the day.

After asking around (“Hey, where can I get a cool quick release keychain? Anyone know?”) I decided to stop over at Lowes on the way back to the office during lunch. I sauntered over to the keychain accessory rack (yes, there IS such a thing) and there it was, the object of my desire. Once I got this baby back to the office and got everything set up, I’d be the fucking man! I hurried up front, impatiently made it through the checkout and sped back to the office to get this show on the road. Got back, transferred all my keys off of that shitty, useless, single ring I had them on before (what was I thinking? The only thing that was good for was keys. I had much bigger plans now…) and stood back to marvel at my newfound heroic usefulness.

Then I put it in my pocket… or rather, “forced its bulk into the front of my pants”.

Quickly, before anyone walked in and saw me, I quietly transferred all my keys back to my remarkably svelt, simply executed “key ring”. You know, the one that’s a ring… that’s designed to hold keys?

So if you’re ever out and about and you find yourself in a tough spot and you just HAVE to get your hands on a quick 2 gigabytes of hard drive space, I’m afraid you’re shit out of luck.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I have to go return this cape I bought…

“Wishery”

Magical.