I like to think that the reason I blog mostly is that I like the idea of putting thoughts down in some kind of tangible way. It’s really been one of the most rewarding things I’ve started doing over the last couple of years. Lately, one of the thoughts that have evolved out of that original idea is the process of trying to preserve some of the amazing conversations I’ve begun having with my daughter. Abigail’s four years old now and along with her incredible vocabulary, comes this amazing thought process. In short, I love how she thinks and how her head works. I’ve got this idea that maybe one day I’ll just turn on the video camera and record us just having a conversation while we build things with legos, because when she’s sitting in front of those things, it’s like her brain goes a thousand miles an hour.
Anyway, sometimes we just have these great conversations that I tell myself, “I don’t ever want to forget this moment”. Mostly they occur in the time between waking up in the morning and dropping off at Montessori school. There seems to be ample opportunity while eating breakfast, getting dressed, watching cartoons, etc to formulate the most amazing thoughts.
This morning was a great example. I had gotten a new Batman game for the Wii yesterday. It’s not the greatest game (in fact, it’s quite bad), but I noticed this morning when I woke up that the Wii was glowing with that purple “hey, there’s an update” glow about it, so I quickly powered it up to see what the hubub was about, and when it came on, Abby immediately picked up on the fact that there was “Batman” in the space formerly occupied by Mario.
“Hey, you got a new Batman game!”
“Yep, I got it yesterday, it’s not that great though.”
“Can I see it?”
“Maybe when I get home, we’ll play it together a little before I send it back.”
“Does it have Joker?”
“I didn’t get that far, I only saw Two Face and I think Cat-man… not Catwoman, so it was kinda lame.”
“Does it have all the bad guys?”
“I think so…”
“Batman needs to kill them.”
“What? Why would Batman kill them?”
“Because they’re bad… Batman kills the bad guys.”
“Sweetheart, Batman doesn’t kill the bad guys ever. He puts them in jail, where they belong. Batman doesn’t kill anyone.”
“Like the police…”
“Yep, exactly like the police”
Looking over at the tank top I’m wearing, she says, “I remember me and mommy saw the police arresting that bad man once, he was wearing a white shirt like yours without the sleeves”.
A few minutes later, she’s dressed and waiting on me to get ready and gather everything up for our quick trip to school. Cartoon network’s on (naturally) and it’s Hotwheels: Battleforce.
“Dad, which color do you like?”
“I don’t know… I think I like the blue.”
“I like the red. You know why I like the red?”
“Nope, why do you like the red?”
“Because he (the driver of the red car) has hair like Tyler (a boy in her class that she talks about nonstop). His hair’s yellow like Tyler’s, but it doesn’t look like Tyler’s hair (I think Tyler’s got long hair… the boy on TV has short blond hair).”
Following me around while I gather up lunches, bags, laptops, and dolls.
“Hey, you have a ring just like mommy!”
“Yep, it means mommy and I are married, they’re called wedding rings.”
“When I’m a big girl, know who I’m gonna marry?”
“Oh yeah? You’re gonna marry him when you’re a big girl?”
“Yeah, that’s why I wear mommy’s rings”
“I’m also gonna marry you too daddy”
“You’re gonna marry Tyler AND me?”
“Yep, but where am I going to get a wedding dress?”
“I don’t know sweetheart, you’re going to need one though, aren’t you?”
“Yes… I know, I’ll borrow mommy’s… borrowing is good. I borrowed my cousin’s dress… she let me, so I’m gonna borrow mommy’s wedding dress.”
By this time we were pulling into the parking lot at the school. I was tempted to just shut the car off and continue our conversation… she said something about making mommy jealous, which I would’ve loved to hear her elaborate on more…
I think I’m gonna pursue that topic a bit more tonight at dinner.